The Daily Grind
Our daily lives start and finish with a task of some kind and the fact that we all have those tasks, regardless of what the specifics of them are, is something we all have in common. Each of us wakes up every day with tasks that we have to do, places to go, jobs to show up for, children to raise, and family to interact with. But then there are those other things that we know we should do, but seem impossible because of the other tasks: eat healthier food, exercise more often, read a book, spend more quality time with your loved ones (emphasis on quality), volunteer time to a good cause, write in a journal, and meal-prep healthier food. The list of tasks can go on and on and be filled with endless possibilities that we have been told will be beneficial, but may be impossible to plug into your daily life.
I started 2018 thinking that if I could just shove all the extras into my life then I too could live as a happier and healthier version of myself, but the truth is the more things I shoved into my life the more stressed out and less healthy I became.
Fortunately, my moment of clarity came. You know that moment that can sometimes build up for days, weeks, maybe even months or years. For me, it was the stress of trying to be the healthiest version of myself where it finally all came crashing down. I was so focused on trying to shove it all in, I was never truly enjoying or ever gaining anything from doing those beneficial things anyways. I was tired, stressed out, and treating the people that I cared about the most very poorly. The latter of which being something that ultimately made me the saddest.
What I came to realize was that reaching all of my goals (being a better coach and expert in my craft, being a better athlete, having better skills in gymnastics and weightlifting, having a stronger mindset and sharing it with others) did not have anything to do with my overall happiness and health. In fact, the more I tried to focus on them the more stressed out I got.
I was so fixated on doing something or being somewhere in order to achieve those goals that I completely missed the value the journey holds in getting there. Somewhere along the line, I decided to have a mindset of growth rather than being so fixed on an end result that could only be achieved through fixed and forced action. When I started to take the time to enjoy those extra tasks that were once forced into my life, I began to see the real benefit of them and honestly stopped resenting the fact that I “had” to do them.
My life had become about the process, focusing on the moment and how great it felt to grow. Whether that growth came from learning something new when I read a book, practicing gymnastics or weightlifting, or working towards any of the myriads of goals I’ve set for myself.
What has happened for me is that now those forced in activities are just a part of who I am. I get up every day before the sun and read my book, eat a healthy paleo balanced diet, work on my mobility every evening, and read to my kids every night. There a lot of things that I do on a daily basis that make my life happier and healthier. The difference now is that I enjoy them and they are a part of me.
Embracing the Moment Through Pie
Imagine you are at Village Inn (or your favorite pie-serving diner) and that you just ordered a pumpkin pie. Your goal is to eat that entire pumpkin pie, so you start shoving the pie down. All the while thinking about that entire pumpkin pie: what is the next piece going to taste like, are you even going to enjoy another piece of pumpkin pie, or will there be enough pie for you if you don’t hurry up and finish this piece of the pie. Before you know it, the first piece is gone and you don’t remember what it tasted like, if you even enjoyed it, or if you really want pumpkin pie anymore.
Embracing the moment means not knowing what kind of pie you really want in the end. Maybe to begin with pumpkin was what you thought you needed, but at the end of the day you end up with being happiest with key lime.
Please friends, enjoy your pie and the end results will come, one piece at a time.
Coach Jake’s 2019 Goals
- Spend 20 minutes a day reading
- Mobility work 3x per week
- Meal prep 2x per month
- Work on Olympic Lifting specific work 4x per month
- Learn about property management
- Work on our family’s life investment plan
- Learn about property management
- Attend USA weightlifting level 1 course
- Achieve level 2 CrossFit certificate
- Attend leadership conference
- Read to my youngest daughter every day
- Spend 15-20 minutes with my oldest daughter daily
- Hug and kiss my wife daily
- 30 min a week no devices spent together with wife
- Date night once a month
- Spend time weekly working on sales tactic
- Invest In the growth of a veteran-specific service
- Invest in the growth of Rock Steady Boxing programs in the community
Jake Haile is our resident morning person here at CrossFit Icehouse and we believe him to actually be spring loaded out of bed each morning. When Jake isn’t pursuing his passion of coaching adults of all levels all over Fargo, he spends his time having dance offs with members, playing rec-league basketball and chasing around his 2 beautiful daughters.